Esther Perel is a leading Couples Therapist from Belgium.  Here she talks about our need to make a partner choice with certainty, and how difficult that is!  Learn to embrace uncertainty in love! Then learn to be the right partner rather than expect to find the right one! Imago Relationship Therapy assists individuals and couples in understanding how partner choices are made at an unconscious level.  Once you are clear about the unmet needs you bring to your relationship, you can develop a greater level of consciousness about the kind of partner you choose, and the kind of partner you become.  Attending therapy or a workshop with an Imago therapist means that you have a deeper understanding of who you are and what you need.  You can still never be certain, but you can be more conscious!